Caring for Someone Living with Dementia

A formal dementia diagnosis can feel like a shock to the individual experiencing symptoms and their family. You may feel concerned for your loved one’s well-being and how you can support them meaningfully, especially if they’re struggling to come to terms with their diagnosis. 

Caring for a loved one can be both rewarding and isolating. It’s essential to find a balance between caring for your loved one and caring for yourself. Today, we’ll explore how you can care for someone living with dementia without experiencing carer burnout. 

Tips for Caring for Yourself and Your Loved One

Carer burnout is a common occurrence for individuals who adopt the role of primary carer for a loved one. You may feel as though the world is on your shoulders, especially when having to focus on your loved one’s needs, your career, other family members and self-care. 

To ensure you’re looking after your own well-being as well as your loved one with dementia, consider the following practical tips: 

1. Share the Care

Sharing your responsibilities with others can be immensely beneficial for everyone. By introducing a carer, your loved one will receive regular support from specially trained and experienced professionals who have committed their careers to providing compassionate care to those living with dementia. 

Regular care visits will enable you to pursue your own lifestyle with the reassurance and peace of mind that your loved one is receiving bespoke, heartfelt care. Being cared for by different carers can be a positive experience for your loved one, too. They’ll able to build friendships and engage with new people in the comfort of their own home.

2. Establish a Support Network

Your support network may include your loved one, their medical team, local communities and charities, and friends and family. In many ways, your lifestyle will undergo changes as your loved one’s dementia progresses, and it’s important to ensure that you are able to share your experiences with others and seek support.

3. Consider Dementia-Friendly Home Adaptations

There are several simple changes you can make to the home to make living independently with dementia easier and more manageable.

These include: 

• Consider colours and patterns in the home to reduce errors in perception and confusion
• Help your loved one keep a diary of things they want to remember
• Pin a weekly timetable somewhere that’s easily accessible
• Put emergency items such as a phone within their reach
• If your loved one has a daily newspaper delivered to remind them of the date and day, clear away old papers to avoid confusion
• Help your loved one locate household items by labelling cupboards or drawers
• Place helpful telephone numbers by the phone
• Leave reminders in helpful places, for example, put a note on the front door to take their keys
• Install safety devices, such as gas detectors and smoke alarms
• Ease the stress of paying bills by setting up direct debits
• A pill organiser box can be helpful for remembering which medications to take and when

4. Making Decisions on Behalf of a Loved One

As dementia progresses and reaches more advanced stages, the thought processes and ability to make decisions become increasingly difficult. This implicates an individual’s ability to consent to decisions about their care.

At this stage, your loved one may need to be assessed to determine their mental capacity.

Mental Capacity

As dementia progresses, the structures in the brain that are responsible for problem-solving, reasoning, thought processing and decision-making functions may become affected. 

Just as the type and progression of dementia is unique to each individual, the extent to which dementia affects mental capacity will vary. For example, someone may lack capacity to decide on complex financial issues, but the capacity to make other decisions, such as which items to buy at the local shop, remains unaffected.

The more advanced stages of dementia may struggle to make and communicate their decisions. At this stage, your loved one may benefit from a mental capacity assessment. Care providers and health professionals are governed by the Mental Capacity Act (MCA), which is designed to protect and restore decision-making capacity to vulnerable adults who lack capacity, as well as to those who have capacity and choose to plan for their future.

Five key principles of the Mental Capacity Act:

1. Every adult has the right to make his or her own decisions and must be assumed to have the capacity to do so unless it is proved otherwise
2. All practicable efforts should be made to encourage and support individuals to make decisions for themselves
3. Everyone has their own values, beliefs and preferences which may not be aligned to your own, but this is not a reasonable rationale for assuming mental incapacity
4. Anything done for or on behalf of a person who lacks mental capacity must be done in their best interests
5. A best interests decision should be the least restrictive option when considering the person’s rights and freedoms of action

Power of Attorney

In the event that an individual lacks mental capacity, but decisions need to be made regarding their care, it is advisable for a power of attorney to act on their behalf. A power of attorney can be established through a solicitor. 

This process is significantly more straightforward if completed whilst the person requiring care has the mental capacity to nominate a power of attorney themselves. A nominated attorney has the authority to act legally in their loved one’s best interests for financial and property matters, plus decisions on welfare and medical treatment.

Managing Emotions Through Your Actions

Whilst certain cognitive tasks may be more difficult than others, emotions and feelings can remain intact. In the later stages of dementia, when long-term memory becomes affected, your loved one may not remember that their partner passed away, and they may request to visit them. 

If you share the distressing news that they have passed away, your loved one will experience the grief as intensely as if it were the first time, and avoiding traumatic situations is of fundamental importance to maintaining your loved one’s well-being. 

In this scenario, it may be advisable to plan a trip to visit their partner in the future, by which point the arrangement will have been forgotten, and their feelings will have been protected.

Clear Communication

When caring for your loved one, maintaining their dignity is of fundamental importance. Your loved one may feel distressed as their dementia affects aspects of their everyday life, but by keeping communication clear and simple, you’ll help them feel supported in interactions.

Distract and Redirect

There will be times, particularly during the later stages of dementia, when your loved one may struggle to communicate with you or perform a certain task. Sometimes, even attempting to assist them can be extremely frustrating, so redirection and distraction can be useful ways to soothe these frustrations. Changing the subject to something new will help engage you both in a new activity.

Allow Your Loved One to Make Decisions

Freedom of choice is an important means of maintaining independence. Although decision-making abilities may be affected by dementia, there are creative ways to ensure that your loved one is still able to make choices for themselves. 

Open-ended questions such as “What would you like for dinner?” can cause distress, but enabling your loved one to choose their preference from a selection of options, for example, “Would you like shepherd’s pie or fish and chips for dinner?” can protect their freedom of choice and independence.

False Truths

As dementia progresses, your loved one may begin to share stories that you know to be untrue. Although human nature would be to correct them, it’s important to understand that the story is true in the mind of your loved one. Correcting or challenging them may cause confusion and distress.

Keep Life Positive

A journey with dementia can be distressing for everyone involved, and maintaining a positive outlook in spite of the daily challenges can sometimes feel impossible. But there is joy to be found in every day. 

Look for elements of happiness and positivity in everyday life and share these with your loved one. Although they may not acknowledge your positivity in a way you’d expect, your influence will help support their mental well-being.

Be Open and Honest

If a friend or family member finds it hard to talk about dementia, make the first move and explain how they are able to help you. This will shift the focus of power to the person living with dementia and enable them to feel like they have the ability to support others.

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